Breast milk adapts and changes over time. A mother’s breasts change in how they feel during the first weeks of making milk versus a few months later in their feeding or pumping journey. The breastfeeding relationship changes as your baby grows from baby to toddler and older and looks a little different for each parent and baby. One thing does not change and that is the continued benefits for you and your baby.
Your milk supply begins well before you have your baby. Making milk is a complex process beginning with mammary development when you were a fetus. While in utero, the mammary line forms a rudimentary ductal system. Hormones during puberty influence the growth of the ductal system. As estrogen is released from the ovaries during puberty, breasts begin to grow in size and secretory glands form on milk ducts as the ductal system matures. The areola darkens and the nipple may be more erect as the tissue stretches. When you become pregnant, your breasts may grow in size, the areola becomes darker, bumps around the nipple on the areola called Montgomery glands may become more pronounced and you will see more veins on your chest becoming visible as your breasts prepare for milk production.
As early as the 12th - 16th weeks pregnant, you begin to produce colostrum. When your baby is born, they will survive on this highly concentrated, nutrient rich colostrum for the first few days of life. It has laxative properties helping your baby to pass meconium. It is low in lactose and high in protein, beta carotene and immune factors. Oligosaccharides are not digested by the baby but protect them from pathogens.
Colostrum may leak during pregnancy, but not always and doesn’t determine or predict your milk supply. Keeping the baby close to you, skin-to-skin as much as possible, helps with the establishment of milk supply and stimulates milk production. It helps regulate your baby’s temperature, heart rate, breathing and your baby will cry less.(1)
In the first 3 days postpartum, you will make between 1-2 oz of colostrum per day. On day one, your baby will take about ½ tsp. - 2 tsp of colostrum. (5) This amount increases on day 2 and day 3 to about ½ - 1 oz.
Milk “comes in”
Milk volume increases as it changes from colostrum to transitional and mature milk. It is higher in lactose and carbohydrates than colostrum.(3) It is higher in fat to meet your baby’s needs as they grow so quickly. Milk volume begins to increase around day 2-5. The color of your milk will gradually change to a more white, creamy color compared to the rich yellow/orange color of colostrum.
You may feel your breasts become heavier and full-feeling. You may leak milk. If you feel over full or engorged, you will want to encourage your baby to nurse more often to help give you relief. If needed, cool compresses between feeding can reduce the swelling while warm compresses before feeding can help dilate the milk ducts and encourage milk flow.
You may notice your baby’s feeding pattern begin to change with more milk volume. Your baby will increase how much milk they take over the first 5 weeks, typically drinking 1.5-3 oz per feeding.
The more often your baby nurses, the more times you are giving information to the body about how much milk is needed for your baby. Your milk supply is being driven by your hormones and will be produced regardless of milk removal for the first few weeks postpartum after which your baby’s demand for milk will dictate your supply of milk. Skin-to-to-skin contact with your baby releases oxytocin, the love hormone. It promotes bonding between parent and baby and signals the milk ejection reflex for milk to flow.
It is important to watch your baby’s feeding cues. Begin feeding before they become hungry. Just like us, if we wait too long, we get a bit hangry, grab anything we can get our hands on and maybe not eat slowly and chew our food well. When your baby is super hungry, it is harder for them to be calm and latch deeply and feed well. The more often your baby nurses, the more often the breasts refill. Scheduling feeds has been shown to negatively affect milk supply by 3 -4 months postpartum and can be hard to recover.(6)
Weeks 6 - 12
Your breasts may not feel the same as they used to. The always full feeling decreases as prolactin levels decrease. Prolactin is released when milk is removed and signals to refill the tissue that holds and stores milk. So, the more often you feed your baby, the more often you signal to refill your storage areas with milk. When not enough milk is removed, it sends the signal to slow down production and less milk is made, lowering your supply.
It can be tempting to find ways to get more nighttime sleep and go long stretches of time between having to nurse or pump. This is not a great plan for most when it comes to maintaining milk supply. Prolactin has its own circadian rhythm. It is highest during the night. This remains true throughout the whole time you are lactating.(4) Removing milk during the times prolactin is naturally highest, promotes milk regulation and adequate milk production.
Your baby is drinking about 2 - 5 ounces each time they nurse now. From about one month old until 6 months old, your baby’s milk needs remain fairly constant. They will drink about 19-30 ounces per 24 hours with the average being 24 ounces.(7)
6 months - 1 year postpartum
Around the middle of the first year of your baby’s life is when solid foods begin to be introduced. The introduction of solids is an exploration of texture, taste and smell. They still rely on your milk to meet their needs. You will always nurse first and then give food. The more food your baby begins to eat over this period of time, the less milk they may take and supply will decrease slightly. Until at least one year old, food remains complimentary to breast milk, it does not replace.
As your baby gets older and explores their world more, they may nurse less often during the day or for shorter periods of time. Babies often make up for that time during the night. Middle of the night feeds remain important for milk production and your baby’s weight gain. Babies take in about 30% of their calories from milk during the night.
Your baby is beginning to realize they are independent from you, their own person. Breastfeeding offers emotional support and comfort. It gives them security as they learn so many new skills like crawling, standing, taking their first steps and begin to see the world in a new way.
Nursing past one year
Your milk benefits your child for as long as you nurse. Not all babies are eating a lot of solid foods until closer to 18 months old. Continuing to give breast milk boosts their nutrition and immune system. If your baby catches a cold, sometimes the only thing that they are willing to take is your milk. It helps keep them fed and hydrated when they aren’t up for anything else.
Your milk supply will follow the demand of how often your child removes milk. Some children will begin to cut back how often they nurse, while others nurse just as often as before. There is no one right way and it is best to pay attention to your child’s unique needs.
Your older baby is more efficient at nursing than when they were a baby. Instead of taking 15-20 minutes to get the milk they need, now they come to you and may only need five minutes to drain your milk.
Breast milk past one year postpartum has been shown to be higher in fat and protein, but lower in carbohydrates.(9) High IgA antibodies continue to fight off illness.
2-4 years postpartum and beyond
Breastfeeding until at least 2 years old is the recommendation of the World Health Organization and should continue for as long as mutually desired. Nursing during this stage looks completely different than when they were younger. They may nurse less often or for short snippets of time. They may not nurse at the same times each day, although nighttime and nap times still seem to be a time they like the comfort and snuggles to relax and settle in.
Breastfeeding can make your growing child feel safe and meet their emotional needs. When they are learning yet more independence and interacting with other children, sometimes a nursing break gives them the reset they need to continue their play. A quick nurse in your lap stops crying and conflict as they learn to share toys and play with others. Dependence naturally forms independence.(8)
The immune system is formed around age 3-4 years old. Continuing to give breast milk supports tutoring the immune system and gut health. This can mean less illness and better protection as they get older.
Natural weaning happens when your child decides they no longer want or need to breastfeed. Anthropologists have looked at weaning through a lens of the child having gained four times their birth weight, tooth eruption and the child’s age being at least six times the length of gestation. Natural weaning can be a broad range happening anytime between 2.5 years old and 7 years old.(10)